5 Reasons a Lady May Not Like a Particular Guy!!!

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You may be in a great relationship right now, but if you don’t stay on top of your game, you could lose a good thing. It’s important to continue to
develop yourself and find ways to bring valuable contributions to the relationship. If you start getting too comfortable, you could begin demonstrating some unsavory behavior or fall back into bad habits you worked hard to change. Here are some behaviors most potential mates will find wildly unattractive.

1. Unreliability

Do you regularly forget special holidays and important anniversaries? Are you often late for dates or constantly rescheduling? Being unreliable is inconsiderate. If you’re late for dates or forget important days like your partner’s birthday, this is a bad look. It shows that you don’t see her as a valuable part of your life. If you want to change that impression, you’ll need to get your priorities straight.
Clinical psychologist Seth Meyers said one of the classic red flags for unreliability is lateness. He advises his clients to cut off a new relationship if lateness starts to become a habit. “Lateness is a major sign of either disorganization or selfishness, and each of those traits makes for a highly unreliable person … Being a grownup is all about honoring one’s commitments … I suggest [my clients] tell their date what they need and give their date a chance to change their behavior. But if you’re just getting to know a date and he or she is late more than once, your date has failed to honor basic social conventions in such a fundamental way that I don’t believe it is worth your time to try to change the behavior. My goodness, if they don’t get it by now, will they ever get it?” said Meyers.

2. Poor work ethic

Slacking off at work, lying to your boss, and leaving early should not be part of your daily routine. If you can’t seem keep a job due to poor work ethic, you need to find your motivation and start making more of an effort. Pastor and author Kevin A. Thompson said a poor work ethic is a sign of laziness. This lack of motivation will bleed into your personal life and slowly but surely begin to kill your relationship. “Laziness kills relationships. It might look appealing at first. It seems easy and laid-back. But when you marry a lazy person you will either have to do the work of two people or live in the consequences of their laziness. Neither are desired. A healthy work-ethic is necessary for a well-balanced relationship. If a person is lazy, the marriage becomes unequal. One spouse does more work than the other. This easily results in bitterness and/or entitlement. It makes one spouse the parent and the other a child, but marriage is about partnership,” said Thompson.

3. Selfishness

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One mark of maturity is being able to place someone else’s needs above your own. If you are so absorbed by your own needs and wants that you can’t (or won’t) make room for someone else’s needs, you may not be ready for a serious relationship.
Psychiatrist Srini Pillay said selfish lovers may be concealing feelings of inadequacy and a need for control. “Selfish lovers often suffer from feeling inadequate. Their feelings of inadequacy run so deep that they end up feeling very ashamed. To cover up this shame, they are internally ‘still’ and this ‘stillness’ drives the giver in the relationship to want to keep on giving as a form of resuscitation since the taker often feels dead…Selfish lovers are often hiding something they are very ashamed of as well. Giving makes them feel out of control and threatened as they worry that the reason for their shame will be revealed. With this strong feeling of having to cover up all the time, they hold onto their love very tightly because giving it up makes them feel as though they are sliding on ice,” said Pillay.

4. Mixed signals

You’re either interested or you’re not. Showing passion and excitement one minute and then acting bored and not returning phone calls the next minute is not only confusing for her but also rude. Don’t play a childish game of hard-to-get. If you’re truly serious about your partner, remain consistent with how you demonstrate your feelings.

5. Not taking care of yourself

Just because you got the girl doesn’t mean you can relax. Take pride in your appearance by making an effort to look nice for your lady. A sloppy appearance communicates the message that you don’t care much about impressing her anymore. Consequently, your partner may feel she doesn’t mean as much to you. Don’t be surprised if she starts looking elsewhere.
Grant Harris, owner and chief style consultant at Image Granted, told The Cheat Sheet that looking unkempt could cost you when it comes to attracting the opposite sex. “Grooming extends past the face all the way to head-to-toe maintenance. Depending on the industry a man is in, his hands may be on display and a well-kept appearance may make or break deals that lead to long-lasting personal and business relationships. For men who are not in an industry where their hands are on display, it is still important to care for your skin and nails as they are indicators of overall health in attracting a mate and overall bodily health,” said Harris.